When Women Love Married Women

A troubling situation that should not be judged too harshly, we are all capable of falling in holes with little room to escape. I will try to be gentle and look at all sides when exploring this subject, and also remembers that it is very different to affairs in heterosexual couples.

It is important not to judge. Our society is so eager to humiliate, cast out, and punish us for our choices rather that teach openness, honesty, and the value of good intentions. We may all be a little healthier if we practice these principles on ourselves and each other.

Women are built to form emotional bounds; it was an intricate part of our survival in prehistorical times. We connect emotionally to each other, due to women having more of the chemical known as oxytocine "the love hormone." That is why affairs affect lesbians very differently to heterosexuals and why there needs to be a different view point taken when understanding affairs between two women. This is not to say that straight people aren't affected by affairs in their marriage, the impact of betrayal on any person regardless of sexual orientation can be devastating and painful.

As much as we would like to look the other way, the two women need to acknowledge that there is an individual being thrown into the affair without knowing or giving consent. When we attempt to manipulate our environment to our advantage where others are unwilling participants the consequences are often "very" ugly to severe. I have heard men tell me "it's one thing for my wife to screw another man but to shame me into screwing a woman that is a whole other story."

There are many reasons why we choose to have affairs; there is the excitement and sense of adventure of having a secret and attempting to control our life. There are also women that need to connect and search for companionship that is lacking in their marriage. Romance and love is something written in story book and seen in cinema, and soon forgotten once in wedlock. The art of courtships has dissipated and the appetite for wild passion is a constant craving. Many couples may have stopped having sex and our living two separate lives in the same house. Other triggers of affairs are one-night stands, opportunity, attention that builds our self-esteem, revenge, escape from everyday life, and of course to end a marriage.

However, the most common type of affair in lesbian extramarital affairs is the "I did not know I was a Lesbian or Bi." Many of us got married because that is what is expected. Most of us grew up begin told that we must meet a nice man that can take care of us. I am only thirty, but I know that crap was shoved in my face from various sources. Not once was I ever even given the opportunity to even contemplate my sexuality, excepted from my mother who was a bisexual hippie herself.

Many of us get married and realize that the life we "choose" is not ours to live; that the one we seek is still wanting for us. Now, does that mean we leave our husband, sadly no. The urge to fulfill other people's expectations is a lot greater for some women that they will continue to live a life of secrets.

Many women won't leave their husbands because of the social repercussions it may have on their lives, financial burdens, and of course because children may be involved. In the end that is a choice that the married woman makes.

What if you are the "other" woman, well you have two choices. First one, you can continue to the affair and wait to see if anything ever changes. Or you can leave. If you decide choice number two than here are some tips on how to break up the affair:

Think about what you're going to say.Meet somewhere public.Tell her there will be ABSOLUTELY no contact. That is the only way to heal.Say good-bye and walk away towards a future that is yours and not controlled by another person's fears.

It will be hard and it will hurt, but it will pass. There may always be some residual pain, but unless you set yourself free from a secret life you will not have room to build a healthy relationship with a woman that is completely ours.

Alex Karydi~The Lesbian Guru

I am an Internationally Certified Drug and Alcohol Counselor that has been trained in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender LGBT related issues. I write for the Examiner.com as their Lesbian Relationship Expert and am a featured writer on SexGenderBody.com. My intention is to start a movement towards a healthier and more supportive community! Where LGBTs can find each other, learn from one another, and build a stronger support system. I, myself, am on a personal quest in discovery for a healthier gay relationship and self-fulfillment.

If you have any questions, comments, or concerns please feel free to email me at TheLesbianGuru@Gmail.com with ExaminerQ as the title or you can follow me on my Blog http://thelesbianguru.com/! Are just Join The Lesbian Revolution of Health & Love on http://Facebook.com/TheFemmeGuru.

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When Women Love Married Women

A troubling situation that should not be judged too harshly, we are all capable of falling in holes with little room to escape. I will try to be gentle and look at all sides when exploring this subject, and also remembers that it is very different to affairs in heterosexual couples.

It is important not to judge. Our society is so eager to humiliate, cast out, and punish us for our choices rather that teach openness, honesty, and the value of good intentions. We may all be a little healthier if we practice these principles on ourselves and each other.

Women are built to form emotional bounds; it was an intricate part of our survival in prehistorical times. We connect emotionally to each other, due to women having more of the chemical known as oxytocine "the love hormone." That is why affairs affect lesbians very differently to heterosexuals and why there needs to be a different view point taken when understanding affairs between two women. This is not to say that straight people aren't affected by affairs in their marriage, the impact of betrayal on any person regardless of sexual orientation can be devastating and painful.

As much as we would like to look the other way, the two women need to acknowledge that there is an individual being thrown into the affair without knowing or giving consent. When we attempt to manipulate our environment to our advantage where others are unwilling participants the consequences are often "very" ugly to severe. I have heard men tell me "it's one thing for my wife to screw another man but to shame me into screwing a woman that is a whole other story."

There are many reasons why we choose to have affairs; there is the excitement and sense of adventure of having a secret and attempting to control our life. There are also women that need to connect and search for companionship that is lacking in their marriage. Romance and love is something written in story book and seen in cinema, and soon forgotten once in wedlock. The art of courtships has dissipated and the appetite for wild passion is a constant craving. Many couples may have stopped having sex and our living two separate lives in the same house. Other triggers of affairs are one-night stands, opportunity, attention that builds our self-esteem, revenge, escape from everyday life, and of course to end a marriage.

However, the most common type of affair in lesbian extramarital affairs is the "I did not know I was a Lesbian or Bi." Many of us got married because that is what is expected. Most of us grew up begin told that we must meet a nice man that can take care of us. I am only thirty, but I know that crap was shoved in my face from various sources. Not once was I ever even given the opportunity to even contemplate my sexuality, excepted from my mother who was a bisexual hippie herself.

Many of us get married and realize that the life we "choose" is not ours to live; that the one we seek is still wanting for us. Now, does that mean we leave our husband, sadly no. The urge to fulfill other people's expectations is a lot greater for some women that they will continue to live a life of secrets.

Many women won't leave their husbands because of the social repercussions it may have on their lives, financial burdens, and of course because children may be involved. In the end that is a choice that the married woman makes.

What if you are the "other" woman, well you have two choices. First one, you can continue to the affair and wait to see if anything ever changes. Or you can leave. If you decide choice number two than here are some tips on how to break up the affair:

Think about what you're going to say.Meet somewhere public.Tell her there will be ABSOLUTELY no contact. That is the only way to heal.Say good-bye and walk away towards a future that is yours and not controlled by another person's fears.

It will be hard and it will hurt, but it will pass. There may always be some residual pain, but unless you set yourself free from a secret life you will not have room to build a healthy relationship with a woman that is completely ours.

Alex Karydi~The Lesbian Guru

I am an Internationally Certified Drug and Alcohol Counselor that has been trained in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender LGBT related issues. I write for the Examiner.com as their Lesbian Relationship Expert and am a featured writer on SexGenderBody.com. My intention is to start a movement towards a healthier and more supportive community! Where LGBTs can find each other, learn from one another, and build a stronger support system. I, myself, am on a personal quest in discovery for a healthier gay relationship and self-fulfillment.

If you have any questions, comments, or concerns please feel free to email me at TheLesbianGuru@Gmail.com with ExaminerQ as the title or you can follow me on my Blog http://thelesbianguru.com/! Are just Join The Lesbian Revolution of Health & Love on http://Facebook.com/TheFemmeGuru.

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When the women Love married women

Troubling situation that should not be judged in too have, we are all capable of make falling in holes with little room to escape. I'll try to gently and look at all sides of exploring this topic, and also remembers that it is very different in handling matters.

It is important not to judge. Our society is so eager to ensure anonymity, cast out and punish us for our decisions rather teach openness, honesty and good intentions. We can all be a little healthier, we practice these principles in the US and each other.

Women are built to form emotional boundaries; was the complicated part of our survival in prehistorical times. We connect emotionally to yourself, because women have more of a chemical known as oxytocine, "the love hormone". Why matters affect lesbians differently to heterosexuals, and why it should be taken into account the different point of view, the understandings between the two women. This is not To say that straight people do not relate to matters within their marriage, the impact of Betrayal on any person who, regardless of sexual orientation can be disastrous and painful.

As we look to the other, the two women, you must confirm that it is a natural person, the wrzuconych to the Affair without knowing or agreeing. When we try to manipulate our environment for our benefit, where are the other participants either unwilling consequences are often "looking for serious." I've heard men tell me "is one thing for my wife, another man, but screws to shame me for screwing the woman, which is a whole different story."

There are many reasons why we choose the case; There is anxiety and sense of Adventure with secret key and trying to control our lives. There are also women who need to connect to and search for companionship that is missing in their marriage. Romance and love is something of a Member State, written in the book, story, seen in the cinema and soon forgotten once adopted. Art has dissipated and the appetite for wild courtships passion is a constant craving. Many couples may have stopped having sex and our two separate life in the same House. Other triggers the matter they are-night stands, opportunity, remarks that builds our self-esteem, Revenge, escape from everyday life and of course to end her marriage.

However, the most common type of matter in an extramarital affair of lesbians ' knew I was a Lesbian or Bi. " Many of us we got married, because that is what is expected. Most of us grew up with a start, we said that Nice man who can care about us. I'm only thirty, but I know that crap was shoved in my face from different sources. Not once ever even was given the opportunity to even contemplate My sexuality, excluded from my mother, who was bisexual hippie, as herself.

Many of us get married and realize that life is not "we", our live; that that which we can seek is still wishing for us. Now whether that means we must leave our husband, unfortunately no. Stepping up to meet the expectations of others, is much larger for certain women, which will continue to live life of secrets.

Many women won't leave their husbands, because of the social repercussions it may have on their lives, the financial burden and, of course, because children may be involved. In the end, which is a choice that makes the married woman.

What to do if you are the "other" woman, well you have two options. First, you can continue the affair and see if something ever changes. Or you can leave. If than tips on dividing the affair of the choice number two:

Think about what you are going to say.Meet somewhere public.Ask him, there will be ABSOLUTELY no contact. That is the only way to heal.Say good-bye and walk away towards a future that is Yours and are not controlled by another person's concerns.

It will be hard and it hurt, but it will pass. Always be some residual pain, but unless you set yourself free from the secret life of peace is not to build a healthy relationship with the woman who is completely our.

Alex Karydi ~ Lesbian Guru

I am an internationally Certified drug and alcohol counselor, who has been trained in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender LGBT issues. I write to Examiner.com as their expert relationship Lesbian and'm featured writer on SexGenderBody.com. My intention is to run the movement towards a healthier and more supportive Community! If you can find each other, LGBTs learn from each other and build a stronger system of support. Alone, I'm on a personal exploration in the discovery of a healthier relationship of gays and self-fulfillment.

If you have any questions, comments or concerns please feel free to e-mail me at TheLesbianGuru@Gmail.com with ExaminerQ as a title or follow me on my http://thelesbianguru.com/Blog! Just Join The Lesbian Revolution of health and Love at http://Facebook.com/TheFemmeGuru.

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