Man gay told me once, "I feel that the whole world's watching every movement you make. It's like in a glass bowl and is comfortable feeling. "
These are not uncommon among the Crimson Exploration Inc. of gays and lesbians. Our society is moving. Homosexuals are a minority, with the exception of the very few sections in several cities such as Chicago and San Francisco. According to recent research by the Institute of the family, only 2-3% of men and 2% of women are homosexual.
Hence the feeling of being in a glass bowl, observed. Worse still the feeling that the public is discriminating against gays and lesbians, and that they are not truly protected. How can I cope if one of them?
Here are some commonsense advice.
1. be careful when leaders of society, who adheres to gays and lesbians. Many of these leaders want his homosexuality on the display in order to achieve their Selfish means of obtaining financial support for themselves or obtain recognition. Does one no good at all to display all the time. Therefore, you must use the fund-raiser, very sparingly but effectively. There is, time and place to demonstrate Your sexuality. This is when there is a forum, such as the Convention, seminars or political rally specially facilitating Your problems. You get much more acceptance and sympathy are perceived as "in their face".
2. recognize the simple truth. "Gay" or "lesbian" covers a small part of your life. At least, it should not take over your life. It is simply that you are sexually attracted, and as a partner or spouse to a person's own sex life; nothing more. Most of the traffic of gays and lesbians mask its real significance--as other minorities, want to make sure that you are not discriminated against; Homosexuality mainly affects only Your sex life. All other times, you're like anybody. If you feel otherwise, you may have other issues and check to see if there is something wrong with you.
3 public is significantly more accepting of gays and lesbians living, than your "leaders" would you believe. When you start to lose the support of the Community (vs. policies of the company), what is happening now, is a sexual preference, where flaunt, regardless of the company, the circumstances and decorum. E.g. I met gay men who will be the opening talk about their sexual preference, in the presence of children. A person who deals with this is really pathetic and has a great sense of insecurity, and is gay has nothing to do with it.
4. Stop searching for "discrimination" in each Act. If you don't you get that promotion or important projects, do not Jump to the conclusion that sexual orientation plays an important role in it. You can simply that someone else was more qualified or shown skills relevant to the project. Gays and lesbians leaders will often be goad to believing that only because you're an experienced user, you will need to obtain every juicy promotions. It is inaccurate. In the business world harsh there are other attributes that count-leadership, communication, follow-through, productivity, etc.
5. Don't fight "mainstream" even if I had the unpleasant experience. I think you'll find much acceptance, if you encounter as a solo artist, and not someone who has a chip on his shoulder.
Good luck.
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