There is a major impact by these closeted members of our community forced on lesbians, gays, trans, and bi-s, who are out. This is causing an anti-social envelope to surround where some lesbian and gay events take place. This is 2011. We need to live in the real world, not a pre-1969 world when we were constantly beaten, harassed, considered mentally ill, and more although some of these still happen today. In some states we can legally marry and have lesbian weddings. We cannot live in the closet anymore. We need to interact with society as a whole, not in isolation and in secret anymore.
For instance, I am on the board of directors of the largest lesbian social organization in my area. We had planned a fun-filled event at a particular venue. Up until now it had been held at two other venues; both were more costly and with a lower quality of food. One was not as exposed to the public as the other one, which was right along a street. The new venue's cost was substantially less and totally reasonable with the event to be held in back of the building including exceptional food compared to previous years. The only interaction with the public would maybe ordering drinks inside at the bar from most likely a bi or lesbian bartender or wait staff.
These closeted members of the board instilled fear into other board members by conjuring up visions of 'beer guzzling heterosexuals fulfilling their fantasies' by watching our event out the rear windows. This reminds me of redlining (when real estate agents would go door to door and telling home owners to move out because blacks were moving into their neighborhoods) in the sixties and seventies that was finally outlawed, thank goodness.
This was all because one member was afraid to go to this venue because her family has had events and some of the public may come to the bar there and someone might recognize her and find out she is a lesbian.
It was put forth that no one from the board of directors had to attend, especially if they had a negative attitude; they were more than welcome to stay at home.
Because of the influence by these two members over the others, who could not see what was really happening, this event was canceled and well over 100 women lost a wonderful chance to gather together to enjoy fabulous food and drinks, play some healthy sports like softball, beach volleyball, horseshoes, bocce, the washer game, board games, slip and slide, fantastic raffles, and mingle with old and new friends of all ages.
These are ways that closeted homosexuals affect the rights of their sisters and brothers. This shows how restrictions that they impose on themselves affect everyone in the LGBT communities.
If you are closeted and wish to remain that way, that is all well and good as long as you do not use your influence to control others and affect the activities of those of us who are out and want to have a bit more mainstream activities in the real 2011 world than you do.
Let those of us who wish to be out and gather together and celebrate where we want especially at gay-friendly venues like the example above.
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