When we become aware of our homosexuality, a storm of feelings come to assail us: revelation, understanding, serious anxiety, fear of what the future holds, disgust, joy or sorrow... Among the negative feelings that we may feel at that particular moment is the perception that we are a disappointment. Wrongly or rightly, we imagine the disappointment that we will be in the eyes of our family or our friends. Like a bad movie that is projected in a loop in our minds, we find ourselves trapped in deep anguish of being rejected. Worse, some homosexuals, in relation to the future they had imagined for themselves begin to consider themselves as disappointments.
I will be honest. Indeed, maybe your family will be disappointed to know that you are gay and you will not live the life they had imagined. But do not make the mistake of believing that this is your fault. It is natural that they have planned a number of things about your future but in the end it is their mistakes, their own projections. They have to discover that it is impossible to live the lives of others in their place. Your homosexuality is just a reminder that happiness lies in them and not in outside factors.
The truth is that your coming out acts as a light in the night for you but also for all those who will be witnesses. It is a light that calls us to wake up and open our eyes to the nature of happiness: always be closer to our true nature, the expression of the divine in ourselves. So indeed, maybe your family will not perceive the gift that you represent. But your responsibility stops precisely at this opportunity you offer. One of the greatest treasures we have is free will. Your family therefore have the right to not seize this opportunity for now and to not find happiness in them and stay focused on their disappointment. But this feeling is theirs, not yours.
We are all too inclined to believe that we are the images others project on us. But this is false. The images that they project refer to their perceptions experienced through the filter of their hopes, their beliefs, their fears. The simple truth is you are someone divine. Making this coming out will be your first step towards a peaceful life with yourself.
Do not feel like you are a disappointment because the life you will live is far from the one you imagined. Because the life that you will live will be the one of your true potential. You will leave a gray and hazy world to enter a world of light and color.
And if we consider the courage you showed in making this coming out I can assure you that you can be proud of you.
You are not a disappointment, you are a role-model.
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